People, no matter how old they become will never be able to let go of least one or two fragments of their childhood memory. Be it the time spent with their daddy or mummy, or maybe it's the memory of piecing lego bricks together to build a house or a favourite candy as a kid. For the girlie girl, she will never forget the days she spent combing her Barbie doll hair, imagining that Michelle the Barbie doll is alive for that one brief magical moment.
Who would have imagined that gradually, as these little kids would grow up, they would eventually have to make their own decisions for life? Initially, it would be the choice of whether to pick up after his/her dirty clothes or what to pick off their plate. Then, they will graduate to making more important decisions like deciding which books to bring to school or whether to study for an exam or even in decisions like who they want to be friends with.
As kids, the answers were pretty simple. Everything was black and white. If he likes it a person, that person becomes his friend. If he doesnt, that person is not his friend. So simple.
But somewhere between child and man, the boundaries became blurred. What used to be either black and white now could possibly be grey. You like curry mee but it is fattening. So you avoid it. Grey area. So you just admire curry mee from afar and salivate over it but always never indulging in it because you are afraid of the high cholesterol level. The thing is, the grey area extends to all aspects of adult life, and not limited to just food choices.
And this, my friend, I believe is the root of most people's confusion and dilemmas. They dont know what is the right or wrong thing to do!
What IS the right thing to do?
Because it falls in the grey area, no one will ever know. People may give their side or perspective but really NO ONE can give you the right answer. It really just depends on what you believe in, what you want, the core principle and values you hold on to in life. How far will you go to get it? Do you value A principle over B principle? Stuff like that. This is a very subjective matter. As it is, there are countless number of definitions to what is life, love, hate, diet, even. Everyone believes in different things and hence lead to contradicting views, opposing advice.
Your friends cant tell you what to do, your family cant tell you how to behave, counsellors or advisors can never give the right advice. The only person who knows you best is yourself. And hence, the best advice can only come from the one person who knows you best. In cases like these, my only advice would be to follow your heart.
