English Class

The news article.

The comment:

I dont see what the big deal is. All men pay for sex and all women have sex for money. Prostitution is just the direct method of doing so. How many wives or girlfriends will stay with a man if she's not getting anything out of it? Sex is not a big deal for women, they can get sex whenever they want so of course they are going to want something in return. I would rather have a prostitute at a set price than a woman that is manipulating and using me in an attempt to get what she wants. Dealings with prostitutes is probably the only truly honest transaction most men will ever have with a woman.

My response:

(Mr Ananda, our new English teacher required us to give a written response on the matter)

The person who wrote that comment is clearly a man which has been burnt by a past relationship. His comment is very bias and does no justice to both men and women alike. It is not fair for him to generalize all men and women and accuse women of being with a man simply with the agenda of getting something.

To a certain extent, I am angered by his comments (I must assume he is male considering the things he has to say about women. It is highly unlikely that a woman would say those things about her gender) as they have no grounds and are merely accusatory. He may have been hurt before but this is no excuse for equating one tree to the entire forest.

Perhaps he has forgotten the countless of women who are stuck in failed marriages where they constantly face sexual and domestic abuse on a daily basis. Women that actually slave for their family while their husbands laze around at home drinking beer or gambling the hard-earned money away. Women that give in to their husbands decision simply because they LOVE and respect them. Women that continue to tolerate their philandering husbands while they patiently wait for them at home.

Of course not all women lead such unfortunate lives but I felt the necessity to point out the other side of the coin that he failed to point out. The person who wrote that comment did not consider many other unjust circumstances which are faced by the fairer sex.

He questions how many wives or girlfriends will stay with a man if she’s not getting anything out of it. He confidently states that sex is NOT a big deal for women. Dear Mr-Being-Hurt-before-and-is-now-out-to-get-all-the-women, not every wife or girlfriend stays with a man just to get ‘something’. Most would do it simply out of love! If you consider building a family together, sharing a life together, receiving love and tenderness from the one you love as getting "something" then, I shall concede. But it would then mean that it doesnt just mean that only wives and girlfriends are capable of being such people. It would mean that the entire of humankind is behaving in that sense too! If getting love can be considered as something, then why cant the fact that men seeking for sex (he admitted it himself) should be considered as getting something from women as well?! Clearly, it would be blasphemy to say that all women take and all men give. Because the actual fact is both men and women give and receive in a relationship. There is no fixed giver or receiver.

His comment is horrifyingly unjust and each sentence, I read with gross disgust at the injustice of the words he uses against women. Men can be equally cruel to women – taking advantage of the feelings some women have towards them. Why is he venting out such a one-sided perspective?

I would say of everything he said, the only thing that makes better sense than the rest of the comments is the last two sentences when he views prostitution more as a contractual transaction. But it is only to that extent that I agree with him.