For the people who know that i have gotten myself an attachment, the question that most of you ask is how is it? I have only been on the job for three days now but what i have been to exposed to is something that cannot simply be gotten anywhere else.

As the cases i am most often exposed to is related to family law, (which is almost synonymous to divorce cases), it has made me wonder whether there is any truly happy marriage in this world. Tens or twenty couples go to court in a single day to petition for a divorce. And the ones i have seen mostly breakdown because of third parties. Why is all this happening?

A few years, or even a few months back, I believed that marriage is a pure and wholesome ceremony.. a union to bind two people in love legally, so they can live their life together as one. When they undergo the wedding ceremony, they undertake a vow to love each other in health or in sickness, in good times and bad. But why? Why are they divorcing a decade into the marriage? And for some, they wait until they are old enough to have grandchildren then they divorce. I understand.... some people just arent meant to be together. But doesnt the fact that you have spent a substantial amount of time with this man/woman mean anything to you? Dont you feel special to have shared a large chunk of your life with this person whom you call your spouse? Why cant people appreciate who they are with, and even when times are hard, still work at it and DONT give up?

Maybe the answer is because... people change. And when people change, the circumstances change. On the day they married, they were in love. They were ready to build a family together. But a few big fights and countless minor arguments later, they decide they dont love each other anymore. One party might or might not stray. Even if they dont start meeting other better potential spouses, the distance between the married couple starts to grow apart.

I just dont get it. When either party is too controlling, the unfaithful one will blame the other half for being too possessive and controlling. That the other half didnt give him/her enough breathing space in which made them commit an affair. And when the other spouse is too laid back, the unfaithful one just as conveniently blames them for being too cold, uncaring, and lacking in love and warmth. Oh come on... it is your choice!!! If you realise you dont love a person, you should just come clean or else, make an effort to rekindle those feelings again! After all you did love this person, once upon a time. So many things are at stake... your life, your property, you children, your family, your entire life and not to forget, your spouse's life who was cheated on by you! And you are letting it all go down the drain, just because you two had one fight too many and you think there are better fishes out in the water. Please think carefully....!

Sigh... sorry if anything i said has offended anyone.

It is just that seeing all these sad things happening in life, i feel very hot and flustered. I feel so sorry for all those people who have had their dreams shattered, just because their other half didnt believe that their relationship could work as much as they believed in it. Or maybe, i just feel plain disappointed at how much everyone is taking each other granted for in life, including myself.

A final messsage, i hope you know the blessings in your life. And dont just appreciate it when they are gone. Because i know how it feels and it sucks big time. Dont let your blessings slip away without appreciating it fully. Nothing is permanent in life, what matters is how you make the most of all the good things that come your way.